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July 9, 2008 · Print This Article
I have returned from my extended vacation at last. While I was gone I had my 31st birthday and like usual, I spent time reflecting on life as I have come to know it. So I thought I would share some of my discoveries made in these 31 wonderful years of my great big little life with you all. Enjoy…and please, feel free to share some wisdom of your own.
~Love intensifies all. Nothing can be so painful, yet so pleasurable…so nerve-wracking and yet so comforting. Let it in, it is essential.
~It really does not matter how fast you get there if you are headed in the WRONG direction.
~Pain is. Life can really hurt. But it is a necessary evil. As you evolve through it, you can begin to understand it.
~Fear is quicksand. It can stop you dead in your tracks. Fear can only interFEAR.
~What I am watching is not nearly as important as how I am watching it. How you perceive things can shift your very soul.
~Without the right shoes, nothing is possible.
~The world is not so much your oyster as it is your mirror. The world will view you as you view yourself.
~You will never get to that path that leads to getting what you want if you cannot first remove the things that are holding you back.
~Never go shopping for underwear at the bait and tackle store. Some people just aren’t going to be selling what you are in the market for. Accept it and go to another store.
~When you chase something it WILL run away.
~If you keep on doing the same thing you will keep on getting the same results.
~You cannot force someone to love you. All you can do is simply be worthy of love and giving of your own. The rest is up to them.
~Unlearning is just as important as learning.
~If you want your world to be calm you must first learn to find your tranquility.
~The most attractive quality of all is dignity.
~You should never stop making time for playtime.
~Life is the ultimate road trip, relax and enjoy the ride.
~Clouds have silver linings, but silver linings have clouds. Life is a balancing act, be prepared for the good and the bad alike.
~Laughter really does heal. It isn’t just a band-aid; it is Neosporin.
~It is perfectly okay to be imperfect.
~Loving is the reason for living.
~Loving without conditions and beyond questions takes practice and it starts within YOU.
~True happiness is not about what happens, but rather how you react to what has happened. You always have a choice.
~Letting go is hard; hanging on is harder.
~Even better than being pro-active is being pre-active. If you are waiting for life to happen to you, you will be waiting a long time.
~Keep the future in mind, but realize you are here NOW. You are a human being, not a human will-be.
~Believing transcends seeing.
~Sometimes you need to just sit and be. If you lose your center you will become off balanced.
~Being judgmental puts up a wall between you and your potential happiness. Seeing the good in yourself and others actually helps bring it out.
~”Seize the Day” exists for a reason. For what you seize is truly what you get.
~Some things really are worth fighting for. I guess Hollywood can be right sometimes.
On 07/9/08 at 12:47 am
Carol said:
Happines IS a choice!!! I love these…are you sure you are only 31? Come on, T, you are really a wise old woman!!! And, yes, I am awake at this inhumane hour because I just wrote a very funny blog and Tom ate it.And, well, quite frankly I got spoiled on the “they will post by 2:30 am” prior schedule!
On 07/9/08 at 7:11 am
Trista said:
Oh gawd…don’t try to make me any older…please! =P
I feel 100 today, but this has more to do with airport delays than this last birthday. Man, I hate flying!
On 07/9/08 at 7:34 am
Carol said:
<—enjoys flying…not airport delays.
You got the memo, right? I’m not REALLY forty. I feel about 28 today. Age is a state of mind. We choose our state of mind….old/young, happy/sad, positive/negative, orgasmic/prudish, anal/anti-anal.
Yep. Just had to throw one in there. You know, to see what your partner has to say. And, by partner, I mean Karri!
On 07/9/08 at 12:58 pm
Karri said:
…”and I’m sure someday someone might change my mind.” For the record, I was in a weakened state when I uttered those words!
On 07/9/08 at 4:28 am
Cassie said:
My contribution…..~there really is such a thing as ONE drink too many~
that’s my words of wisdom today!
OH and maybe…~LISTENING and not just hearing can save TONS of heart/headache~
On 07/9/08 at 7:15 am
Trista said:
Oh yes…there is ABSOLUTELY truth to the one drink too many saying! I usually remember this every birthday!
On 07/9/08 at 4:36 am
PrincessQuello said:
Hey love…Sorry I missed your birthday!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I love these…I’m trying to figure out my own life and the little bits of wisdom that I pick up along the way…This is why I have friends like you
“~Love intensifies all. Nothing can be so painful, yet so pleasurable…so nerve-wracking and yet so comforting. Let it in, it is essential.”
SO AMAZINGLY TRUE!!!
Love you
On 07/9/08 at 7:15 am
Trista said:
Thanks, sweetie. I am always happy to share what I have picked up along my roller coaster ride called life.
On 07/9/08 at 7:15 am
Balancing Good & Evil Daily said:
Welcome back! My contribution? Don’t stop to smell the roses if they make you sneeze.. just admire them from afar.
On 07/9/08 at 7:16 am
Trista said:
Ha, I like that. And thank you…I have missed you guys!
On 07/9/08 at 8:08 am
Sarahh said:
~Love intensifies all. Nothing can be so painful, yet so pleasurable…so nerve-wracking and yet so comforting. Let it in, it is essential.~
This was so very very very true…
I have learned many many things. But one I have found to be tried and true.
Trust your Gut. It will never fail you. It will be honest with you when your heart will lie.
Happy Belated! Mine is one month away! 31!!!
Glad to have you back…Hope you enjoyed your vaca!
On 07/9/08 at 9:13 am
Trista said:
Yes…trust in the pit…absolutely.
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And it’s good to be back!
On 07/9/08 at 8:23 am
Karri said:
“Life Is A Highway”…really not as funny as one would think. DON’T DO IT!
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SO happy you’re home!!!
On 07/9/08 at 10:39 am
Trista said:
You mean so happy I am back in California??
On 07/9/08 at 10:42 am
Karri said:
NOT funny!
On 07/9/08 at 8:25 am
Jime said:
Good to see you back, Trista. Thanks for the wisdom.
On 07/9/08 at 10:41 am
Trista said:
Yay, thanks…and you are welcome. You have none of your own to share?
On 07/9/08 at 11:15 am
Jime said:
Thanks for asking, Trista. What would Socrates say? I admit to being a fool, please pass the hemlock.
On 07/9/08 at 8:54 am
Phoenix said:
Life is like a ‘Die Hard’ movie. You already know the ending- Bruce Willis survives and kicks the bad-guy’s ass- BUT you watch anyway, because you just can’t resist seeing the “how” in the middle.
Keep watching.
On 07/9/08 at 10:42 am
Trista said:
Nice. And I shall.
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So nice to see you over here, by the way…it’s a nice birthday gift to me! =)
On 07/9/08 at 5:07 pm
troy said:
thats a killer take!
I luv it!
On 07/9/08 at 8:58 am
Kevin M. said:
Welcome back, T.
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All those sayings are great. Reminds me of one that’s stuck with me for a while, now:
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~ You can’t doing anything about the length of your life. But you CAN do plenty about its width and depth.
On 07/9/08 at 9:09 am
Carol said:
The Girth of Life….and sadly, my brain is totally in the gutter.
On 07/9/08 at 9:37 am
Kevin M. said:
And how exactly is today different from any other day?
On 07/9/08 at 10:42 am
Trista said:
My sentiments exactly!
On 07/9/08 at 12:29 pm
Carol said:
Today, moreso, much more so, than other days.
Geez, it’s nice to be appreciated for my….ummmm…mind.
On 07/9/08 at 9:43 am
Meghan said:
Welcome back!
Lovely Learnings above! So true in so many ways.
I also like
~The heart of a fool is in his mouth, but the mouth of the wise man is in his heart.
AND
~It isn’t the mountains ahead that wear you out, it’s the grain of sand in your shoe.
On 07/9/08 at 10:43 am
Trista said:
Thanks! I love that last one…it’s one I should remind myself of often.
On 07/9/08 at 3:29 pm
Chris said:
A fool and his money are soon partying.
On 07/9/08 at 1:31 pm
Ryan Cooper said:
~ It’s not getting what you want, It’s wanting what you got. (And other song lyrics!)
On 07/9/08 at 6:17 pm
Meghan said:
Yaya! Ain’t that the truth!
On 07/9/08 at 2:14 pm
Missygail said:
You’re going to end up on some random quote page, or as the little quote by someone’s picture on their myspace page, very insightful.
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Happy 31, I’ll be celebrating the big 30 on the 18th.
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I think on good motto is…
“Shit happens and it sprinkles down evenly. No, one gets anymore shit than they can handle.”
On 07/9/08 at 6:37 pm
Trista said:
Ha!
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Happy early birthday!
On 07/9/08 at 3:44 pm
Chris said:
“Stumbling blocks can often be stepping stones.” (with a tip of my hat to Carol)
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“Love is a gift. It’s what we choose to give, without expecting it in return.” (and another tip in the same direction)
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“It takes a small man to carry a grudge.”
- C.S. Knepper
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Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, “WOW — What a Ride!!”
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“…a state cannot stand once it has lost the trust of the people.”
- Kongzi (Confucius), “Analects” 12.7
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Everybody falls down. It’s the champions who get back up.
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“I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”
- Martha Washington (1732 - 1802)
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Don’t you understand the world revolves around ME?!!
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I am your Network Administrator. You may call me “God”
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“Absence diminishes small loves and increases great ones, as the wind blows out the candle and fans the bonfire.”
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“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”
On 07/9/08 at 5:17 pm
Phoenix said:
“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”
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This is the most accurate description of love that I have ever seen. It fits perfectly whether applied to the love I have for my child, or for my significant other.
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Thank you.
On 07/9/08 at 5:49 pm
Trista said:
I concur…that really IS love isn’t it?
On 07/9/08 at 4:28 pm
Karl Rove said:
Welcome back to Blogland.
Great list. One thing I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: Nothing hurts worse than loving and not being loved back. I guess it kind of goes with your line “Letting go is hard; Hanging on is harder.”
On 07/9/08 at 5:37 pm
Meghan said:
Ugh - Here here, Rove! The most empty feeling ever!
On 07/11/08 at 11:18 am
PJ said:
I was gone for your birthday too, so you’ll have to settle for a belated Birthday wish.
On 07/12/08 at 9:02 am
~Lori~ said:
Funny how vacations, have tendency to make us more reflective especially if it’s a place that you might have called home once, or consider it in a way a home away from home? Great quotes Trista, hope the vacation was all you wanted it to be and then some. I’m in the middle of mine, and it has made me realize, this place is a part of me and will always be, but I know this is not where I belong, where I do, well I’m sure that will be shown to me eventually too.
((HUGS))
~L~