Giving new meaning to “till death do us part?”

Happy hump day, people!

Speaking of humping…I don’t think I could do it…with the wifey down the hall.

I handle a little bit of divorce work (ok actually a lot). I have a few questions for Ms. Blinders. You say the wife knows all about you? How often have you talked to her about what is going on? She is also dating? have you seen it and met her boyfriend? If not don’t bet the lying husband/boytfriend is telling anything but what you want to hear.

Divorce is not that expensive if everyone agrees the marriage is over and agree to leave. The expense is when people are fighting over children or things.

I’ve got just two words for you…emotional unavailability. Guys who date while married are the epitome of Mr. Unavailable. I’ll bet if you looked it up in the dictionary, you’d find the assclown’s picture.

Look, here’s the thing. IF he leaves her, and that’s a hella big IF, there’s still no guarantee he’ll walk down the aisle to be with you. After all, you’ve already proven you don’t give a crap about yourself. Why should he? But I digress. The cold hard truth is that rarely do these situations ever end with a happily ever after. Most times, they find other excuses why they can’t be in real, full fledged relationship with you even if they ditch the wife.

Run chica. Run like the wind!

For real?

That guy has his cake, eats it, too… and brags to his friends about it.

Unless there’s a green card involved, anything or any reason he gives her is simply bullshit.

It takes one half the time you were together to get over the relationship. It could me more or less, but that is a good rule of thumb.

And if he is still in the house and it makes you uncomfortable then I think you may already have your answer. Sounds like he is calling all the shots. Imbalance isn’t a good starting point.

His wife shouldn’t be joining you both in the Honeymoon phase of your relationship.

Nothing drives me more crazy than when a woman calls the MARRIED man she is fucking her boyfriend. How can some other woman’s husband be your boyfriend???

I’m telling ya Polly, it’s a losing battle. I know someone who tried this. It’s been about 3 years now. He said the wife knew. The girl in question even went and TALKED to the wife about it. He originally told this girl he was staying for financial reasons too. First it was “wait til the end of the year”, then it was “wait until we file our taxes together in April”, blah blah blahdeblah.

He is STILL with wifey-poo and fucking this girl on the side 3 years later. And counting.

Let me ask you this, why WOULD he ever leave, if he knows he gets to have both worlds?

I couldn’t even read all of this. I may just be in a bad mood, but this is exactly the type of stupid woman that makes me want to cunt punch them repeatedly!!!

She needs to run the other way. While the guy may be sweet and funny, he’s still living with his wife. Does he refer to her as his wife? Has she been over to their place? I smell a rat with a ring on it’s finger…

Why is she wanting to get married after only 6 months anyway, regardless of his marital situation? How anyone can even think about marrying someone who is already married is beyond my comprehension. I lived with my ex-husband for a few months after our divorce because we had horses and a house to sell. But neither of us was trying to play games with someone else. And I can tell you, even when I started dating again, getting married AGAIN was the last thing on my mind.

I’m with Phoenix. This shit drives me mental! Are you really going to lay down the foundation of your relationship this way? It’s really the story you are going to tell people in 10 years…oh wait! You won’t be together that long…got it.

If he talks of marrying you while already married then he needs a little history lesson on the concept of ‘forever’.

You aren’t falling in the kind of love you really want here. You fell into a well he isn’t letting you climb out of. Truth is there is a ladder right behind you and you should be pulling yourself up and out before you drown.

Married is married, I don’t even care if they are separated. You don’t tread on another woman’s territory even if she doesn’t want her spouse. In the state I live in now, you have to be legally separated an un-godly amount of time before they will even grant a divorce. I made the mistake of dating a man that was separated, big mistake, will not ever do that again. Honestly, this gal really needs to re-evaluate what she wants for HERSELF, usually when you get with someone that is newly separated/divorced, or just split up from a LT relationship, you end up being what I have seen the term a “transitional partner”, been there done that, not always fun to say the least. In essence, you are a stepping stone in their road back to the dating/relationship world again, and it has a tendency not to last, not all the time, but a high percentage of the time.

Truthfully, I really think this girl should give herself a swift kick in the ass, and do a self-esteem/reality check. She needs to know she DESERVES better for herself. I hope she reads this, and really gives herself that gift of love.

I have actually sooooo been in this situation before. It’s not fun.

I had a relationship with a man, who lived two hours away. He was still married, but yet divorce minus paperwork and living arrangements. The sleeping arrangement was him in the bed and her in the living with the male roommate.

It was definitely odd to say the least.

They were very cool people and the break up was a mutual split, but instead of dealing with one person I had to deal with two.

We lived two hours away. My car wouldn’t make the trip back and forth. I had to take the greyhound to see him. Yeah, I know I’m glutton for punishment.

He would tell me that if it was only him, he’d so spoil me and take me out to the best restaurants and come to town to pick me up. All of these empty promises.

But of course it wasn’t only him. They still shared finances and she couldn’t see the reasoning in spending the gas money for me to be able to spend one night out there. Even though I a single mom was paying for a round trip ticket from Tulsa to OKC.

They stayed married because of finances and the fact she was in school. Also, he came from a very traditional Taiwanese family, who could possibly disown them if they revealed that they were getting a divorce.

What was really screwed up was during parties and such, they had to keep up appearances. So they had to carry on like a married couple, but yet I was kind of this odd person who had no real reason to be there. Friends would ask me how I knew the couple and I couldn’t say that I’d met Robert by having cybersex on the computer.

I kept trying to hold on for the moment when they would actually divorce and he’d be on his own. I couldn’t wait very long and when I’d ask about their time plan I’d get years where I wanted to hear mere months.

It’s just too hard, no matter how great the guy is. Mine was pretty awesome as well, but no man is worth that BS. They have finally since divorced and he’s with someone else, but I’m better off. It also lets you know that he’s not the type of guy to stand up. I mean most men when the marriage is over would tell the wife to get the “f” out. He might be a stand up guy and help out with the bills, but I just don’t think a guy who is not a door mat would just keep up this screwed up arrangement.

I’d say give him a time plan or ultimatum. If he can’t fulfill your needs then cut your losses and move on.

Now, I took a while to divorce my ex, we were NOT together, I just couldn’t afford it and I was hoping (in vain) he would initiate it. Boy was I wrong. Anyfart, this girl is still a fool.

Any way you dress this particular cow patty, it’s still shit, and it’s stinky.

Get out.

As for wanting to marry her? Puuullleeeaaassseeeeeee, after a divorce the only M word anyone wants to hear is Money, ’cause you’re broke. She needs to leave la-la-land to the faeries and wake up.

Ok, I understand the reluctance to leave a guy who you love, but seriously? Peace out. He’s an ass underneath that funny, sweet exterior. And it’s not like the ass-itude is buried real deep either. I’d kick him in the taint. If she didn’t have feelings for him and just wanted to fuck his face, ok then, stay. But the whole love thing isn’t going to work out.