Is the grass really greener?

In our world of instant gratification and the perpetual need to obtain the unobtainable, at what point in our lives do we resolve ourselves to finally being satisfied? Not only satisfied with who we are as individuals but with the one we’ve chosen to share our time with. Is it just a process of evolution that allows us to get to a place where we no longer feel the need to look for something seemingly superior? As human beings we have fundamental desires that can’t be ignored, but can they be controlled?

Straddling the fence of love and relationships is a tricky balancing act. Keeping one foot in and the other ready to run to the next best opportunity. We may have our sights set on a large blinking light, yet are easily distracted by a small flash off in the distance that piques our interest and leaves us to wonder if the grass is really greener?

Since the beginning of time men and women have possessed undeniable differences. The Hunter-Gatherer if you will. As we have evolved from the caveman to feminists burning their bras, traditional roles have become convoluted. Both genders are now perplexed as to what they truly want and need in a partner furthering the everlasting question “is the grass really greener?”

For the hunter once the challenge is over, once the prey has been killed, it’s time to begin the hunt yet again. Unless of course we are dealing with a highly evolved individual who has become skilled at how to control such desires. Some hunters have the ability to be satisfied with his current catch. Others however, are never fully satisfied and continue the search to fulfill their own unmet inner struggles perpetuating the balancing act. These hunters are unable to terminate relationships or behaviors that are either detrimental or truly ineffective, yet continue to sustain the ego driven male.

Meanwhile, the gatherer is diligently hoarding every emotional and physical connection. The wants and needs of the gatherer are not necessarily more simplistic than that of the hunter, but generally much easier satisfied. Before our foremothers got carried away with the fight for equal rights, our roles were clear. The gatherers were subordinates, leaving the hunters to protect, provide food and shelter and procreate. Today choices for the gatherer are limitless, including whom they choose to share their time with. Even gatherers have the ability to ponder, is the grass is really greener?

The truth of the matter is it’s not how much we love someone, but how much we are willing to tolerate. If we find ourselves in a situation were we must ask if the grass is greener elsewhere, more than likely your soul isn’t being fed with what it truly needs or wants. On the contrary if we believe it doesn’t get any better, then it’s up to each individual to honor the person in their life with respect and dignity at all times, controlling our intrinsic desires.