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Fri, 23 May 2008 08:08:37 +0000

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By: Trista

Trista — Thu, 22 May 2008 23:03:39 +0000

I get what you’re saying, but if I don’t feel like sexing it up in the first month, I probably never will…

By: Trista

Trista — Thu, 22 May 2008 22:56:51 +0000

And you rhyme, so come back any time!

By: Trista

Trista — Thu, 22 May 2008 22:55:22 +0000

By: Ryan

Ryan — Thu, 22 May 2008 21:31:20 +0000

Ummm, OK then! It was late!

By: Trista

Trista — Thu, 22 May 2008 21:08:23 +0000

Ummm, that’s what Eve said to do…

By: Garg the Unzola

Garg the Unzola — Thu, 22 May 2008 15:47:54 +0000

One month is not long enough.
I say give it 2 more months. After 3 months in total, if you don’t feel like having earth tremor causing sex every time you see each other, it’s probably not going to happen.

By: Melody

Melody — Thu, 22 May 2008 09:39:33 +0000

I love it! Your really funny, and dead on the money!!

By: Melody

Melody — Thu, 22 May 2008 09:25:02 +0000

Hmmm. Im swaying on this one too. I have to agree with all of this, and I think we may have stumbled into a many shaded grey area here. I know from experience that the “bad boy” is usually the most exciting in the sack. But that also usually brings heartbreak along with a good healthy kick in the ass once the hindsight starts to work. I have been with a smart, handsome, hard working guy who was THE BEST I’ve ever had. One of those that even after years, a look, or accidental touch in public got me all worked up. Only trouble is, he turned out to be a controlling asshole. Even chemistry does not fix that, so I got my heart broken anyway and it took 6 months for it to even start to get better. Then there is my situation now, the guy really isnt what you’d call hot, or even good looking to most of my friends (Lori has commented on this before), he tends to be hugely inconsiderate at times, but even with that, there is chemistry. For me. I have to wonder with him, because the sex only happens occasionally at best. Sometimes 5 or 6 weeks in between. And no, he is not cheating. Its been that way since day 1, and were at 4 1/2 years now. Its frustrating to say the least. BUT my opinion on this is, sometimes it grows and you wonder why you had that initial lack of magnetism. Other times it definitely turns into replusion. Sometimes its almost simultaneous. I think ZERO means probably never. But then again, maybe she has some hang-ups that are preventing it??? I think it might be a good thing that she can see his not so positive traits now, instead of the usual pattern we all fall into at times, that the person is perfect until the libido slows down, then when we see the real person, we develop a dislike for them, when they are the same person who attracted us in the first place. Thats not fair to either party. If it were me, I would wait, give it some time, and hope for the best. But if enough time goes by and its still not clicking, move on.

By: Ryan

Ryan — Thu, 22 May 2008 09:21:17 +0000

NOPE! Eve got it wrong. Dump him. Your feelings won’t change. You won’t suddenly develop an attraction for “Mr. Nice Guy”. And the longer you keep him around the more in love he’ll get and you’ll break his “Mr. Nice Guy” heart. And after being dumped a couple of times, he ‘ll become “Mr. Asshole from the bar guy”. And when he’s done with those games he’ll find that middle ground and be someone’s “Mr. Right.” It’s the circle of a man’s dating life. “Ladies, it’s middle ground that you seek. And it’s not found at the club.”