Reading Lips
July 2, 2008 · Print This Article
Soul meets soul on lovers’ lips. ~Percy Bysshe Shelley
We have done the dance all evening, clearly the attraction is mutual. I watch your lips move as you speak and wonder how they will feel against mine. The innocent touches we exchange are delightful and maddening all at once. Looking into your eyes across the table I see my desire mirrored back at me and I shudder with excitement. When at last the crucial moment arrives and we are alone at the bottom of my stairs, I gaze into your eyes and fear and anticipation mingle within me, almost causing me to lose my nerve. But I know I will not forgive myself easily if I let this moment pass, so I reach my hands up to your face, close my eyes and melt into the kiss I have been waiting for all night long. As it vibrates through my entire body, I am pleased with my decision.
When I am without a relationship there is one thing I long for more than anything else…the kissing. I can satisfy myself in the physical sense, but I miss the thrill that only a passionate kiss can provide. I long for the nervous anticipation, the excitement, the head to toe electricity. There are few things in this world that are as exquisite as a truly exceptional kiss.
For entirely too many people, kissing is an appetizer to be rushed through in the race to the main course, which is a shame because sometimes it can be a meal all its own. It is also a communication; if you simply slow down and pay attention, you won’t miss the understated message. It may be subtle, but it is clear when you take notice; so much is disclosed in the quiet of a kiss.
Kissing is a direct gauge for the amount of passion that is felt between two people, it should never be ignored. When you let this slide as a couple, all too often the sex is sure to follow. You can still go through the motions, but you will be achieving mere orgasms, not a connection. When I am hungry for you, you will know the moment our mouths meet. Lips may lie, but kisses rarely do.
It is my philosophy to kiss with everything I’ve got. I relax into the arms that are holding me. I enjoy the hands that are roaming my body, holding my face, twining in my hair. I need to feel the attraction and desire rocketing all through me. I want to feel the heat of your body and your breath. I crave all of you; your lips, your tongue, your teeth… your lust. I have been guilty of lack luster sex on occasion, but a kiss? A kiss I cannot fake.
Am I greedy and unrealistic to want all my kisses to be passionate ones? Perhaps. But when the urgent need to kiss you leaves, chances are the relationship will be following right behind it. So keep the desire alive, and the passionate kisses flowing. Kiss with abandon…kiss as if you might not get the chance again. Tap into all the heat and fire you have within you for that person and let it flow out of you and into them. I am pretty sure your partners will thank you.
So what say you, my people? Is kissing an art form that stands on its own, or simply a preliminary on the way to the sexual grand prize?
On 07/2/08 at 1:58 am
Carol said:
Kissing is an art form…and the connection of a soul kiss is more intimate than ANY other parts connecting. I loved this expression and feeling. *sigh* Not much is sexier to me than being hot and heavy in the midst of primal love making and for my partner to say, “Kiss me”. It raises everything up a notch. Or twenty.
On 07/2/08 at 5:31 am
Trista said:
on the flip side I’ve had partners that weren’t so into the kissing. It changes everything, and not in a good way.
On 07/12/08 at 9:31 am
~Lori~ said:
Not greedy at all, a kiss is the one thing I don’t really think anyone can fake, at least not well. It conveys, every thought/emotion coursing through you at that time. The ones that do not like to kiss, seem to be scared of that connection/intimacy that so many of us ache for in partner.
On 07/2/08 at 2:02 am
Carol said:
loved…”let it flow out of you and into them”. I could not agree more.
On 07/2/08 at 10:12 am
Karri said:
Are we still talking about kissing?
On 07/2/08 at 11:12 am
Carol said:
Get.Your.Mind.Out.of.the.gutter.
OUT!!!
On 07/2/08 at 11:17 am
Karri said:
You’re the one who drug me in there kicking and screaming by the back of my hair.
On 07/2/08 at 11:44 am
Cassie said:
Don’t lie…..you’d like that!!!! hahahahahaha
OK–I’ll stop!
Maybe
On 07/2/08 at 12:08 pm
Trista said:
you guys are having a gutter party without me? Boo!
On 07/9/08 at 2:54 pm
Chris said:
Hey… the bedroom is FAR from the gutter!
On 07/2/08 at 3:36 am
Meghan said:
Here Here!!
A kiss can tell you everything about me, or YOU. It’s something I simply cannot do without. Even as an adult, I see myself wanting to ‘make-out’ more than have sex with someone I am into. A hard core, over the clothes make out session can stir up the soul…we all need one from time to time to remind us we are not just sexual beings, but passionate ones.
On 07/2/08 at 12:11 pm
Trista said:
Very well put, m’lady. And as a bonus, a quality make out session definitely makes me feel young again.
On 07/2/08 at 3:45 am
Meghan said:
To further mark it’s importance - can we all agree there are few things worse than a bad kisser…ugh!
On 07/2/08 at 5:33 am
Trista said:
bad kissers are such a dissapointment. And have you ever tried to tell someone that their kissing skills aren’t up to snuff? That never goes over very well…
On 07/2/08 at 7:31 am
Meghan said:
Ugh - it’s the worst! Ever get that weird iguana tongue action? Where they just sort of put it in your mouth and wiggle it a little. Your over 30! Learn how to kiss!
I’ve, pathetically so, tried to adapt or adjust kissing to meet up half way with a bad smoocher. I had my worst kissing round ever and guess what he said “You’re a really great kisser!”
Never again.
On 07/2/08 at 8:17 am
Karri said:
Don’t forget the rigid mouth guy. Fucking relax already…geezus!
On 07/2/08 at 9:12 am
Meghan said:
And how do you describe what you are doing to my mouth right now so I be sure to NOT ASK for it ever again.
On 07/2/08 at 10:11 am
Karri said:
I’ll take a number 4, hold the frozen face and stick tongue, please.
On 07/2/08 at 12:06 pm
Trista said:
what no mention of the excessive slobberer?
On 07/9/08 at 2:55 pm
Chris said:
Better than the girl who bites your lips. Ouch.
On 07/2/08 at 11:12 am
Carol said:
Bad kissers = VERY bad at other important tongue usage.
On 07/2/08 at 11:19 am
Karri said:
And as we have established on numerous occasions…there is no replacement for a good tonguing!
On 07/2/08 at 12:02 pm
Trista said:
NO REPLACEMENT!
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people that say they dont enjoy a tongue baffle me…all I can think is that they have yet to experience a skilled one.
On 07/2/08 at 2:37 pm
Carol said:
DING..DING..DING!!!
On 07/8/08 at 7:52 pm
troy said:
can I get an application?
On 07/2/08 at 6:53 am
Lanier said:
This makes me want to go to my man and Kiss him. I know the exact feeling. I hate going a day w/ out a kissing. I missed it, and I cant wait for when we see each other. **sigh**
On 07/2/08 at 8:18 am
Karri said:
Go and enjoy it for those of us who aren’t getting any, m’kay?
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I see your *sigh* and raise you another.
On 07/2/08 at 7:11 am
lisaq said:
No frickin’ doubt about it! It is the dessert before the main course. A preview of coming attractions because let’s face it, if the kiss is bad, the sex will be worse.
Everything that I am feeling is in that kiss. All of the passion, all of the emotion, all of the anticipation. It’s all right there. Without it, it’s just going through the motions. And there’s little less satisfying than that.
On 07/2/08 at 8:03 am
Karri said:
“it’s just going through the motions.” Why am I visualizing the marathon dry hump?
On 07/2/08 at 12:04 pm
Trista said:
you know…sometimes a dry hump can be hot too…hello teenage flashback!
On 07/2/08 at 2:20 pm
PJ said:
I’ll give you the kissing, but not the dry hump. The only acceptable dry hump is a stripper’s thank you for buying her a drink.
On 07/2/08 at 7:20 am
Cassie said:
Meh…not so much into the kissing thing!
On 07/2/08 at 7:55 am
Karri said:
HAHAHAAA!
Why do I find that so funny?
On 07/2/08 at 8:02 am
Cassie said:
I don’t know……why?
On 07/2/08 at 8:12 am
Karri said:
I don’t know, but I’m still laughing!
On 07/2/08 at 7:39 am
Jime said:
Great article, Trista, really very evocative. I agree completely. Some of my greatest memories of sexual encounters involve nothing more complicated than kissing kissing for hours and hours.
On 07/2/08 at 8:21 am
Karri said:
And someone PLEASE explain to me why that always seems to fade? It’s a shame, really!
On 07/2/08 at 9:28 am
Jime said:
I agree. It’s never faded for me. It faded cause other people are idiots, that’s why.
On 07/2/08 at 10:06 am
Karri said:
Dumbs…that’s what they are!
On 07/2/08 at 10:41 am
Jime said:
A big flock of idiot.
On 07/2/08 at 10:50 am
Karri said:
HA!!!
Nice one!
On 07/2/08 at 11:57 am
Trista said:
a sea of stupid…
On 07/2/08 at 12:01 pm
Jime said:
…that drains into the ocean of moron.
On 07/2/08 at 7:53 am
Kevin said:
You totally hit the nail on the head, I can satisfy myself physically if needed, but a kiss…now that’s something else. Kissing the right person is the best way to get close to someone. If it feels as if it’s the first kiss you’ve ever had then the feeling is indescribable. I can always tell by how someone kisses how into me they are, and if they are into me and they’re not the best kisser, then I assume they’re just inexperienced or out of practice, but training someone to kiss can be just as fun.
On 07/2/08 at 8:22 am
Karri said:
Kissing 101 by Kevin Hunter. Do I see a new book jacket?
On 07/2/08 at 8:57 am
Outrage said:
A kiss is a door that you open for so much more! It can make you or brake you. I love kissing it’s so exciting. It’s like dancing but for the tongue.
http://outragedman.blogspot.com
On 07/2/08 at 10:10 am
Karri said:
Well, hello Outragedman and welcome to Eve-101!
On 07/2/08 at 10:20 am
Spiked Hawaiian Punch said:
Kissing is DEFINITELY an art form. I can tell if she really digs me (long term potential), kinda digs me (may be good for a few months), or courtesy kiss (snowball’s chance in hell, see you later sister). The right kiss can last all night long, be very passionate, and be one of the windows to her soul.
On 07/2/08 at 10:49 am
Karri said:
I love those descriptions! And yes, a kiss is a window to the soul….ahhhhhhh
On 07/2/08 at 2:23 pm
PJ said:
I travel a lot so I agree with the kissing thing. it’s easily the first thing I miss when I’m gone.
On 07/2/08 at 7:31 pm
Missygail said:
I so love kissing as well… I met a man a few weeks back at the bar. He kept flirting and at one point I gave him an odd look. (I wear my thoughts all over my face) I lied and said my friend did something to me… but really I was checking his lips to see if I thought he’d be a good kisser. Of course I couldn’t tell him that…
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Unfortunately, I didn’t get the chance to find out. His friends were leaving and I only gave him my myspace account. I don’t know if he really knew how to navigate myspace…. oh well.
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I sooo love kissing and making out. The longer the time spent kissing and just making out makes the actual sex hotter.
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I’ve lost a guys number because the kissing didn’t go well. While kissing him, I found out his tongue was like weirdly small and he didn’t like the way I kissed, kept telling me not bite. I don’t like someone telling me how to kiss, most don’t have a problem with the way I kiss…. I figured that dude wasn’t worth my time.
On 07/7/08 at 1:31 pm
Johnny said:
Yes, I would have to agree. It is an art form. With the right partner, you can spend hours on kissing. I once had a first date who actually told me that she was so aroused by my kisses that she just knew I’d be a good lover. “Passion” seems to be the key.
On 07/8/08 at 7:50 pm
troy said:
kissing is WAY more intimate than sex! sex can be just body parts, can be done in anger, and can happen with only one person into it. kissing is none of that! its all five senses at once and you gotta be *trying* to be doing it good at all.
you can kiss your girl for hours and make happy times. thats a great time since sometimes I only wanna be going at it for a few minutes…
anybody wanna share a few kisses with me????
On 07/9/08 at 2:59 pm
Chris said:
I’ve already said how particular I am about what makes a good kiss. Now I need to find another artist.
On 07/9/08 at 3:00 pm
Chris said:
See! the mountains kiss high heaven,
And the waves clasp one another;
No sister flower would be forgiven
If it disdained its brother;
And the sunlight clasps the earth,
And the moonbeams kiss the sea:–
What are all these kissings worth,
If thou kiss not me?