Dirty Thoughts

I am going to need someone to find the rule book for me. I know it exists out there somewhere. It is probably a large book. Pages ripped out, stapled in, some white out, eraser marks, some things are in black permanent marker…

Once I get my hands on it I am going to spend an evening thumbing through the pages. It should be fun, curled up with a blanket and a nice warm cup of vodka. Refresh myself so to speak on the rules for men and women, couples in general.

There must still be rules. Rules that guide us on what we are and aren’t supposed to do, how things should be. Because if there aren’t any rules left then why do men and women have so many problems?? Together, apart, looking, disposing of, etc. You name it and we all have questions.

Since it would take around 14 years to go through them all, I just have one question from the book today.

When you are living with a companion, married, or whatever your arrangement may be,

Who cleans?

Stop rolling your eyes. Domestic issues are still issues. Once we get past, “What is he thinking about me??, Should I call her in 2 days or 4??, Is he just seeing me, or is he talking to that skank ex girlfriend of his? Does she think that I am ok in bed??”

When all of that dies down and you cohabitate, BLAMMO. More shit to deal with.

These are the kinds of questions that keep me up at night. An ignorant man one told me, “If I had wanted to do Bitches work, I would have never gotten married” - Ex Husband This type of opinion is the exception to the rule, and of course if it is out there you know I would find it. But I am truly curious as to how this is divvied up for most “normal” couples.

In the 50’s it was pretty laid out. It was known that, for the most part, women stayed home took care of the house and the kids, the man worked. Easy peasy. But it was oppressive and one sided, hence why it has been obliterated.

But as women have evolved into the work force, muscling our way through to the top of anything and everything, the rules on household chores seems to have stayed the same. That’s like trying to text with a rotary phone. Not possible and makes no sense. I do think that men tend to do more in the last ten to twenty years, but not an equal amount. At least not most that I know.

So I appeal to you Eveette’s. Men and women alike. What is your arrangement? Is their an agreement, a list, a treaty? How does one deal with this? Is it fair to assume because women are sans penis that they should do the majority of the work? Because I am finding this is the case not just with one but with many… Should I WANT to do most of the work?? Was I born without a certain girly Swiffer strand on my DNA?

It has even been documented that this can be an issue for men as well. They do all the work at home while the women just don’t chip in. This is a new, oddly interesting, trend. But still quite unfair. If it isn’t equal then why is one working harder than the other?

My opinion is that house work should be shared. If both people work, then both should share the duties equally or some sort of equal arrangement. As logical as this conclusion may be I am yet to actually experience it.

What is YOUR arrangement? Is it working for you? Better question, is it working for you BOTH?