One Plus One Equals Too Many

Loneliness can be conquered only by those who can bear solitude.

~ Paul Tillich

Living alone is like living without any mirrors. It forces you to stop relying on others to tell you what they see in you; it brings you true introspection.

It can give you both personal understanding and clarity, if you allow it to.

Conversely, constant companionship can be a safety net that leads one to become overly complacent. When in the confines of my various co-habiting relationships I would all too often adapt to their perimeters. Sometimes I would shine in these relationships, but more often my light would go dim. I was slowly burning out whilst making a virtue of doing what I disliked. I was not being true to myself.

I was making myself miserable.

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