Poor Little Homewrecker

Dear Eve,

My best friend is dating a married man. I hate the idea and I am having a very hard time supporting her as a friend. She of course is going through the ol’ “he hasn’t left his wife, he doesn’t make enough time for me” drama and I can’t take it. The sad thing is I’m sure they really care for each other. I am pretty conflicted, she is my best friend and I am happy that she is happy with this guy, but on the other hand I am disgusted by the fact that she is living in this fantasy world.

Eve, any words of wisdom?

Thanks,
Anti-Alliance Annie

Dear Ann,

Well now, you’re in quite a pickle, aren’t you? On one hand we can certainly argue the point that whatever actions little Miss Homewrecker chooses to engage in are of her own volition and none of us have the right to judge the lessons others need to learn. Conversely, you appear to have differentiating opinions as to what is acceptable behavior. So what’s a girl to do, you ask?

Firstly, I have to wonder, Ann, what exactly makes you happy about your best friend sleeping with a man who’s legally bound to another woman? And what about her tirades could possibly bring joy to your life? Although you may not condone the actions of the mister’s mistress you are most assuredly enabling her by continuing to listen to her drone on and on about her sordid affair. Clearly there must be a part of you that’s living vicariously through her Off Broadway performance or you would have had this discussion with her rather than continuing to churn the gossip mill.

It’s blatantly apparent that both you and your fine feathered friend could benefit from a crash course in self-respect and dignity! If you don’t value yourself enough to have convictions in your beliefs then you deserve every pain staking moment of the other woman’s gibberish. That being said, at some point we all make a poor decision or two and what we really need is a friend to throw us a life preserver and save us from our own cesspool. Try having a heart-to-heart with your gal pal. Speak slowly and calmly and simply explain how you feel and that you can’t support her decisions. If your words fall on deaf ears then so be it.

“Distance Therapy” is another alternative to permanent extermination. Take a little break from the manic nonsense; stop wasting your precious time and energy on someone who is too self-absorbed to think rationally… because no matter how you slice it, affairs are never logical. Besides, it’s more than likely that unless your BFF is truly a pathetic, spineless mess she’ll come to her senses one day and miss you terribly. And when she does, you can help her pick up the pieces of her shattered and misguided heart, with just a whisper of “I told you so.” Just remember to never, ever, ever leave her alone with your boyfriend!

KISSKISS
LOVELOVE,
Eve

Keep her, dump her or verbally spank her into submission…which option would you choose? Has your BFF ever been of the cheating kind? If so, what advice do you have for Anti-Alliance Annie?