The Inadvertent Misogynist, Confessions of a Serial Dater
November 21, 2008 · Print This Article
Serial Dater [cereal-daytur]
-Noun.
*A man or woman who non-exclusively dates multiple partners at times in an unscrupulous manner.
Synonyms: Whore, Player
Antonyms: Prude, Nun, Dungeons and Dragons Aficionado, Mom
I’m a thirty-something guy living in Boston. I developed an interest in serial dating 2 ½ years ago and it subsequently has been a hobby of mine ever since. I knew with my penchant for dishonesty and strong desire to hone my time management skills that I had what it takes to be a womanizing dickhead.
I decided to almost exclusively meet girls online. Why you ask? Because they put out; quickly. Even though that’s true, I more so wanted to leverage my time by placing ads and focusing on courting women who already had an interest in me.
So I created a number of different ads, from brutal honesty to complete nonsense. To my surprise, nonsense was by far the most successful. I eventually created an ad that received countless praise. Over time I heard from hundreds of quality girls from ads I placed on a dozen different websites.
Before meeting I preferred to converse by email, IM, or texting. This way I was able to put more thought into what I had to say and flirt with the utmost precision. Better yet, I could be an uber-prick and pretend to speak multiple languages compliments of Yahoo! Answers or AltaVista Babelfish.
When starting from scratch I usually had eight to ten viable prospects, from which I would pick five to six to meet, and then cut it down to my favorite two to three. It was important to meet as soon as possible to avoid days or weeks of communication only to discover you aren’t the least bit compatible once you finally meet. Sometimes I’d be invited over to their house at 1:00 am because they just got in from a girls night out and couldn’t wait any longer. I called that “a guaranteed lay”.
I know ways to succeed when dating two or more; however, in my opinion, dating more than three is virtually unmanageable. You’ll have no time for your friends, the gym and be tired every day at work. Therefore juggling multiple relationships requires some strategy.
1. Determine desired level of honesty: From my experience if you want to date and sleep with whomever you want without the risk of losing what you have, lying is pretty much required. For example, at one point I was dating 5 girls at the same time and sleeping with 4 of them.
Moreover, I probably would have been smothered in my sleep if they knew I lined up meetings with girls I was dating at strategic times of the day. I’d have a nooner with one, an at home dinner and movie with another, and a late night sleep over with a third all in the same day. Don’t worry ladies; I’d wash up in between… usually.
2. Positioning: Assign each girl a rating of ‘weekday’, ‘weekend’, ‘casual’, and ‘I got nothing else better to do’. Fridays and Saturdays are reserved for the girls that you may actually see a future with or are serious arm candy. Conversely, that one who’s been reading “he’s just not that into you” will still be there when desperation sets in no matter what she says.
3. Preemptive damage control: Be proactive and learn techniques on how to block the dubiousness. For example, if asked where you were the night before, you need a way to say it softly or construct a canned lie that works best for you. I liked to say “I was with my friend ‘so and so’ and we watched a movie” instead of, “I hung out with Jennifer who I’ve been fucking the entire time I’ve been with you. We went to a movie and she blew me in the parking lot afterwards. So how was board game night with the family?”
So what came out of this debauchery? A lot more than I bargained for. Whether we are willing to admit it or not, we all want someone special. This is a way to get to them quicker than ever; however, if you screw up, be prepared for a multitude of problems.
Four girls were in love with me at the same time, I had to create an Excel spreadsheet just so I knew who to notify if the doctor gave me some bad news, two girls wet my bed, and worst of all I pissed off a few girls so badly they put up ads telling others to avoid dating me and to this day I receive harassing anonymous emails whenever I put up an ad on Craigslist.
So when asked “TSA, if you could do it all again would you change a thing?” I vehemently reply “oh fuck yeah.”
Well, loyal readers…please welcome our guest writer The Striped Avenger! TSA is in his early thirties, a lifelong resident of Boston and that’s all he’s willing to tell us. He does, however have a lot to say about his stint in Serial Dating…so please leave him your comments below. He’ll be happy to share the pros, cons and unwarranted high fives with anyone who cares to offer up their opinions!
On 11/21/08 at 5:27 am
The Striped Avenger said:
First of all, thanks Eve for the opportunity to contribute a guest post. Although everything above is sad but true, this barely scratches the surface of the story. As you can see the experience was bittersweet. So I’ll take the good with the bad here too. What are your thoughts? Operators are standing by.
On 11/21/08 at 6:27 am
Karri said:
Thoughts? Can I get back to you when I get my head out of the toilet?
No, seriously, as much as I cringed in fear (as I’m certain I’ve dated your likeness) it’s refreshing to hear the truth.
What I’d like to know is, are you still up to your wily ways?
Oh, and thanks for being part of the Eve family. Good luck today…you might need it.
On 11/21/08 at 6:41 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Hi Karri. Hopefully you are finished tossing your cookies. The answer to your question is no! As in ‘No’ I will not answer that!
Just kidding. I haven’t done anything close to this since November of last year.
I’ll never be opposed to dating more than one girl at a time. Unless I’m in a relationship, I in fact prefer it. That doesn’t therefore mean I have to be clandestine about my life outside of whoever I’m dating.
You say you’ve probably dated “my likeness”. Why do you suspect this? Inquiring minds want to know!
On 11/21/08 at 7:57 am
Karri said:
Met via dating site, it was clearly apparent that I’d be designated certain times/days, and 3 months into the cat and mouse game he still had his profile up.
I’m no rocket scientist, but I do have ovaries and intuition. What I didn’t have was the balls to end it sooner. Unfortunately I got stuck in the “I’ll be the one to change his ways” mindset…BLECH!!!
And now I’ll go vomit again.
On 11/21/08 at 8:18 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Whoa! Don’t ever get into the “I’ll be the one who will change his ways” thing. That’s the oldest booby-trap women set for themselves in the book. I’m proof a guy can change, but I changed because I wanted to. Unless you see them actively working on themselves, you can almost never count on that. Hindsight is 20/20 and I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir here.
Leaving a profile up isn’t that uncommon. I had so many up I forgot to take them down sometimes when I wanted to. Can I ask at what point you were looking for it? Were you checking there regularly or did you wait a while and then checked?
I’m asking because in my bag of tricks I would leave my profile up intentionally even if I wasn’t looking for anyone else. I used this to gauge them on the psycho-meter. If they saw the profile there a week later and thought to confront me about it at that time, I knew I was in for trouble. Sure enough, the bitterest one to date met that criteria. The correct answer was never looking for it, but asking me if it was still up after an appropriate period of time. No matter when you did it, I can say it’s a common thing to do.
There was a time I was really good at it and no one suspected a thing. I was always honest with at least one person involved, but that didn’t mean they liked it, which is why I did it in the first place.
But I found that once you hit the 3 month mark; it’s do or die time. That’s really when you should be making a decision if you feel this person is relationship material. You’re past the honeymoon phase and the ‘real them’ has at least made an appearance or two before then.
It sounds like you got out at the right time though. Good work!
On 11/21/08 at 11:57 am
razor said:
…lost my post…this will sum it up…your writing ability, involving the part of your formatting wherein you introduce yourself as “womanizing dickhead”(egotistical self depreciation?) and then proceed with the “Why, you ask?” is so redundant. No, I did not ask why at that point, there was no marvel. And your facade of covering you empty and shallow conquest ridden sport fucking is similar to that Beantown passive-aggressive machismo stance that enables zealous fervor over rigged super bowl victory and impotent world series offerings.
Its similar to comparing the taxidermy of fish shot in a barrel to a prize marlin caught after hours of fighting on a deep sea mission. Its not so bad that your sport fucking, its that your promoting the idea that fucking easy people might be a clever ruse, when it rats itself out completely, by virtue of the fact that they are, by your own proclamation, “easy”. So what’s the point? Your manipulate the willing and conquer the previously defeated with ease and repetition? Quantity never passes for quality…never…its not so much a critique or opinion as it is a well researched fact represented in thousands of years of human expression in art and culture.
One day I’ll be
sad and lonely
and I know that
I was always right
about one thing…
so what?
On 11/21/08 at 6:05 pm
Meghan said:
Well hello, razor! Good to see you back…hopefully not for the last time!
On 11/21/08 at 6:36 pm
The Striped Avenger said:
Mr. Razor- You were hitting on girls in other posts bragging about your worldwide celebrity photography. Don’t be a hypocrite.
On 11/21/08 at 6:40 pm
Meghan said:
She’s not a Mr…don’t make assumptions.
On 11/21/08 at 8:26 pm
The Striped Avenger said:
Well excuse me. Ms. Razor is still a hypocrite.
On 11/21/08 at 11:56 pm
razor said:
…not a hypocrite at all…”hitting” on the internet is one thing, fucking being a total other…my offer to photograph was sincere and without pretense…I actually film and photograph women professionally and I have to maintain principled behaviour or else my conduct could be damaging,to myself and the people i am intimate with…you see I have come to appreciate and care for anyone willing to engage in consensual acts with me…i desire mutual respect with people in all my relationships… when I offer to photograph anyone, its a safe place for them to be or else i wouldn’t get the results i achieve…I have had baseless sex in the past with women in the industry when I was younger, hence my ability to distinguish quality from quantity…I practice what I preach nowadays and have never trolled CL or dating sites or myspace/facebook for that matter for “easy” targets…i have never calculated my sexual exploits and divided the sum against the results… i search for a more transcendent experience than what you describe…you could change your scope and have the same experience if you were’nt so busy compiling stats and spreadsheets on partners that you revel in deceiving and manipulating for your personal ego quest…i am not saying you should regret anything, but if your standard has never been higher than consumptive satisfaction, how can you truly know the breadth and possibilities of your true desire? at some point the only one who is beguiled is the beguiler…I have witnessed this close up in the image driven, desire laden art form of the modern media…and you don’t stay 30 forever, my friend…
On 11/22/08 at 12:23 am
Meghan said:
Consensual principled behavior AND mutual respect…now there’s an idea!! You mean we don’t have to expect our suitors to be on a dating mission? We don’t have to wonder if we are being lied to…that’s a novel idea.
Thank you, Razor…for coming back and being you. Straight shooter as always!
Swoon!
On 11/22/08 at 1:56 am
The Striped Avenger said:
What is baseless sex? Last I knew all your base are belong to us. So I’m not sure what you mean by that. Why not one more topical reference from the guy who’s on top of everything… including your mom.
All I can say about photography is every girl I’ve dated who did modeling ended up being completely fucked in the head. One threatened to commit suicide every time we fought, another faked a terminal illness, and the last one was a bible-belted whackjob.
So it must take a special person to take pictures of them. I happen to be a big fan of Nicolas Boothman, an English photographer who wrote two books “How to make people like you in 90 seconds or less” and “how to compete in business in 90 seconds or less”. I used some of his techniques in my wrongdoing.
The real point here is obviously some of you just don’t get it. I think you’re on the right track here, but still not totally.
To quote what I said to Kel at the bottom of this massive thread “Some of you really need to step off of the soap box, that you put on top of a pedestal, and be realistic. What I did was shameful, but I learned from it and I am who I am as a result. If you can’t understand that, I’m sorry.” I proceeded to ask if she ever made mistakes of her own. Considering you admitted yours, that’s not necessary.
You yourself are talking about your bad deeds of the past, but yet yours are ok, and mine are worthy of a death sentence.
At any rate, I see where you are going and I understand. I can’t say the same thing enough here but I learned more about people and myself than I ever thought I would as a result. If that’s not a positive outcome, I don’t know what is.
I really need to let go of these threads at this point and we can pick up where we left off if and when “Part II” is published.
Swoon nothing! : P
P.S. don’t be mad at me simply for getting more tail than you did at the age of 30.
On 11/22/08 at 2:51 pm
Heather said:
Not all of us are only looking for as much “tail” as we can get. There is so much more to people, and to life.
On 11/23/08 at 1:58 am
razor said:
you really don’t know the definition of baseless and someone wants you to write sex-opinion columns? and the only models you can pick up are ones with social anxiety and personality disorder? the more announce your prowess and ability the more it sounds like a late night infomercial for behaviour that has no enticement whatsoever…your touting of the process as a sure fired way for women to “protect” themselves from “clever(superior?)” males such as yourself and your willingness to expose it as a public service of some sort just comes off as some arrogant hack writing that makes brett easton ellis look like a pullitzer genius…what you consider sexual enlightenment is about as valuable and delivered with as much expertise as pork rinds handed out on yom kippur…thats just an opinion, granted, but its the emperor’s clothing i have been looking at in every dissertation you have offered, and invariably you will be exposed as ignorantly naked the more you hawk your experience as genuine and thoughtful when it strikes the chord more closely to pompous and narrow in intention as well as shallow of thought and experience…like that veggie chopper that comes with the knife set at 3am…
On 11/25/08 at 11:33 am
debbie said:
you got it, razor, this is right on the nail….~!
On 11/23/08 at 11:25 am
razor said:
…dont hate on the swoon, homie…everybody needs love…i’m not trying to take none of your CL love away…she’s gettin’ a lil’ better deal than your ladies got,tho, cuz i’m not a front…
On 11/22/08 at 1:27 am
jello cup said:
“hitting on the internet” is different from “fucking” the way that “stepping up to the plate” is different from “sliding into home”.
Just because you learned your lesson years ago doesn’t give you the right to judge other people for only pulling it together recently, or not at all. You and your days of meaningless sex should have taught you, along with all your transcendence and huffypuffery, that people have to learn their lessons in their own ways. It’s true, you don’t stay 30 forever and you obviously are way, way past that now. It’s too bad age hasn’t taught you humility.
On 11/23/08 at 11:17 am
razor said:
…maybe i have lessons left to learn, lil’ jello cup…maybe you could tech me…that’s what i’ve learned about humility, you show me yours and i’ll show you mine…hasn’t really changed since the playground…untwist your panties before you chafe something and let me just state that fucking ain’t the point i am making, it’s literal quality in the presentation…it asking me, s a reader, if i bought into the blind…”why, do you ask?”…it never grabbed from the gate, and it faltered and sputtered as a hemorraged diatribe afterwards…if a motherfucker’s gonna write sex exploit/advice columns for 30 something beantown white collar snobs, who would assume to sift through desperate housewives-to-be on the internet and have gained a window into the wisdom of the sexual soul, only to have pulled up out of the nose dive before their efficient grading system let a herpetic, syphillitic aids ridden crack whore in a d&g disguise under the radar, and then try to push their written technique as if its some kind of manual that will soon be available on Amazon.com as soon as they work out a few more columns here that they ashamedly have been asked to write and reluctantly have done so, but I have copies of the book standing by and you can me on Lovelines next month with Dr. Drew, I mean, come on, it to much contrivation to not smell…i am just calling spades as spades, my lil’ nukka cup, its how its done where i come from…
On 11/22/08 at 2:44 pm
Heather said:
“quantity never passes for quality”
Great line, and SO true!!
On 11/24/08 at 10:53 am
Armand Assante's Left Ventricle said:
In the short term, it most certainly does.
On 11/25/08 at 11:31 am
debbie said:
I think Youre all fucking sick bastards~!
On 12/22/08 at 5:41 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Sorry I missed some of the comments of the late arrivals. Today, Monday 12/22/08, a second installment is now available. On 12/22 it will be featured as the post of the day. Beyond that, it can be accessed through the archives or a keyword search for “Confessions of a Serial Dater Part Deux - How to Prevent Scumbaggery”
See you there!
On 11/21/08 at 5:44 am
Cassie said:
Sounds too complicated! I don’t have the energy or brain power to juggle suitors!! LOL
I will say, though, that if you ’serial date’ the wrong woman, it could get you in trouble…..have you NEVER seen “Snapped”? hahahahahaahahahah
On 11/21/08 at 6:42 am
The Striped Avenger said:
see below. oops.
On 11/21/08 at 8:38 am
Evan said:
‘Too complicated’? Dude, he used an Excel Spreadsheet at one point! I’d love to see some software developer get wind of this and come out with a compact spreadsheet interface called Playa’books Pro. It would be a smash on the smart phone software market!!
On 11/21/08 at 10:13 am
The Striped Avenger said:
LMAO!
On 11/22/08 at 2:53 pm
Heather said:
What’s really sick is that this is true. There are so many USERS like this in the world.
On 11/21/08 at 6:05 am
Meghan said:
I’ve always said people are allowed to date whomever and however they like…as long as it’s a fair game and they’re honest about it.
What’s the point if even after it’s raining women that you feel more alone than when you started?
On 11/21/08 at 6:27 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Well as you read above, honesty was not my biggest priority. I didn’t leave everyone in the dark, but for the most part, the only person the game was fair to… was me. See most of them didn’t know they were even part of the game in the first place. Now that I think about it, isn’t that no different than those ‘tests’ you ladies give us that we don’t even know we are taking?
At any rate, I wouldn’t say I felt alone during it. The reality was that I was never alone. I was consistently with someone 5-6 days a week and it wasn’t rare to see more than one in the same day.
I had to in order to maintain the illusion of my dedication. Have a story to share?
On 11/21/08 at 6:59 am
Meghan said:
You can be surrounded by people and still feel alone, you aren’t always enriched by the company you keep.
I’m not sure what tests we woman folk are secretly handing out…but I’m also not like many woman folk. You’ll have to fill me in.
On 11/21/08 at 9:55 am
jello cup said:
Every woman says that. Every woman has her own games.
The way you’re different is that you can’t see the games you do play.
Playing games isn’t exclusively a female habit, it’s a human thing. We all do it, we all love it, we’re all addicted and none of us will ever stop.
Also, if you’re in a crowd full of people and still feel alone, you’re with he wrong crowd. Find a better class of friends.
On 11/21/08 at 5:14 pm
Meghan said:
There’s that word ‘every’ again…when will you people ever learn?
I personally don’t consider how I manage my life and social interactions as ‘playing games’. There is a little bit more reciprocity than that.
I’m different from other women for many reasons…and I agree that playing games isn’t attributed to a specific gender. It can however be attributed to a specific personality types/types or the mindset that you are on a mission to claw your way to the top.
On 11/21/08 at 5:42 pm
jello cup said:
No, -everybody- plays games. Everybody. You have your own rules, your own set of justifications to make them okay, your own set of standards to judge yourself by, and your own agenda all existing in your little dating world. Just because you think it’s novel and it works for you doesn’t make it not a game. And saying it’s not a game doesn’t make it not a game either.
Just because winning your game doesn’t involve world conquest doesn’t mean you’re not playing one.
PS, there’s that phrase “you people” again. I wonder which people you mean.
On 11/21/08 at 5:55 pm
Meghan said:
Clearly my sarcasm of using ‘you people’ was not stumbled over on the way to pray at the TSA poster.
Nothing has to involve world conquest…use the word game all you want. I’m choosing to not apply it to myself. Go ahead and run with it.
On 11/21/08 at 5:56 pm
jello cup said:
So when you say it’s never important to lie, you don’t mean to yourself. That’s an acceptable fabrication for you.
Games.
On 11/21/08 at 6:03 pm
Meghan said:
When did I say it’s never important to lie? Nobody here is going to deny they lie…I’d like someone to try.
On 11/21/08 at 6:09 pm
jello cup said:
So I paraphrased. I guess if you’re going to hold a gun to my head over it, what you actually said was “I’ve always said people are allowed to date whomever and however they like…as long as it’s a fair game and they’re honest about it.”
Only, being dishonest with yourself about what you think and what you’re doing makes you dishonest with everybody by default. So by your book, that’s an acceptable dishonesty. Just not the other kind that you have ruled out. In your rules. Listed in the rule book. For your game.
;D
On 11/22/08 at 12:34 am
Meghan said:
My point being…if you want to date multiple peeps…fine! But let them know you are dating multiple peeps.
I’m never dishonest about that. So..no game, set, match for me!
On 11/22/08 at 12:39 am
jello cup said:
Point is, that’s still a game. It’s just different from the game this guy plays. A game is a game is a game. Showing your cards doesn’t make it less a game.
Although maybe less fun.
On 11/22/08 at 12:53 am
Meghan said:
How does being straight forward = game?
If I am openly dating 3 men…nailing them…and I tell guy #4 I am dating and sleeping with 3 men… there is no game involved!
Guy #4 has the choice whether to engage in combat…it’s just life! We all have the ability to make our own choices and hold our own standards/justifications…you already said that.
On 11/22/08 at 1:01 am
jello cup said:
You can call it “engaging in combat” but you can’t admit to it being a game? So it’s a war, instead. Is that somehow different, in the grand scheme of things?
Yes, it’s just life. And life is full of rules to games we either elect to play or not. Not playing one game doesn’t mean you don’t have your own to play.
You’re reacting with the presumption that playing a game is somehow sinful or wrong or mean or cruel and it’s really not. The battle of the sexes, the game of life, the whole world, it’s just made up of miniature sports matches and we, as a species, are too competitive and hungry to not play with each other.
On 11/22/08 at 3:07 pm
Heather said:
Good for you, Meghan!! Not ALL people play games. The biggest players just like to think so.
On 11/21/08 at 9:08 am
Evan said:
I really like the idea that honesty and be prioritized and de-prioritized as needed.
Seriously.
On 11/21/08 at 9:58 am
The Striped Avenger said:
After scrolling up here, now I see why you were accused of being me!
On 11/21/08 at 6:06 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Thanks Cassie. Funny you say ‘energy’, because if you make a sport out of dating, you’ll never get any sleep. It really wasn’t all it was cracked up to be.
No I haven’t seen that movie and since I’m now on hiatus, I’m pretty much only harassed by Netflix for not returning Donnie Darko after canceling my membership 2 weeks ago.
I did, however, visit the IMDB and read the keywords for “Snapped” which included “female killer” and “head crushed”. That being said, I think I’m gonna pass!
On 11/21/08 at 6:36 am
~Lori~ said:
Thank you for writing this. Just wished I had seen it sooner. I tried the online dating thing, for the most part, didn’t get duped very much, most men realize I don’t put up with much bs pretty quick so they run for the hills, or they are just intimidated by a woman who knows exactely how they want to be treated and are real.
I will say this, I let one get under my skin, which still pisses me off to this day. I was lucky nothing was ever consumated *wink*, but it really hurt my feelings.
I gave up on the whole online dating thing, yet again. If it is suppose to come to me, it will, if not, then so be it.
Afterthought: It is a little sad that when a individual takes the chance, and is fully honest, only to be treated like an oddity than a treasure.
On 11/21/08 at 6:38 am
~Lori~ said:
Oh one other thought, I do NOT believe in dating more than one person at once, not fair to you or them, if you really want to get to know them.
On 11/21/08 at 7:19 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Well that’s the problem nowadays. You get duped and you don’t even realize you’re getting duped. I wouldn’t necessarily take this as a warning to not date online, just something to be cognizant of. And where are these ‘hills’ that everyone is running for. Maybe that’s my problem with meeting so many nutcases. I must be in too high of an altitude!
Anyway, keep in mind guys who do things like I did aren’t just online. In fact you’re more likely to bump into a scumbag elsewhere.
I grew up having mostly women for friends and actually had really good morals. I always wore a condom, I never cheated, and I never lied. Once I got involved in an unsatisfying relationship at the same time as making a ton of guy friends as a result of taking up darts and pool, I was exposed to the way men really are… and I was horrified.
You’d be shocked to hear the number of guys who were sleeping around like crazy while they had a girlfriend, or even a fiancé. I knew a guy who hooked up with 25 different girls while with one girlfriend.
I asked them why the hell they would do that? The two most common answers are “I’m not married” and “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her”. Others were “you only live once”, “everyone does it”, and “what’s it to you buddy”.
I came across quite a few girls that dated a lot too. The big difference I’ve found with female serial-daters, is they will date even more than then men do; however, they are very selective with who they sleep with.
So a girl might date 50 guys and only sleep with 3 of them. I’d date 30 and sleep with 15. So even though the girls are dating so much, they still want that connection. For me, it was sex first, emotions second.
A while back I found myself looking for the answers to “what is dating?” and “what is a relationship?” I eventually realized the answer was: “Whatever the two people involved together agree upon.”
If I had my way, dating is “don’t ask, don’t tell”. Mostly all women want FULL DISCLOSURE and although dating is allowed, if you are having sex with them, thou shalt not have sex with anyone else regardless of if you are in a committed relationship. I didn’t like those rules, so I didn’t follow them.
So I guess my problem was I focused more on cupidity rather than cupid.
On 11/21/08 at 10:02 am
jello cup said:
Nobody ever -wants- “full disclosure”.
They -want- something to be big and dramatic so they can be the bigger person and forgive you for it, then hang onto it later on to whip out while you’re feeling like crap over something else on which you have royally screwed up.
Everybody says they want full disclosure but what they really want is somebody whose full disclosure doesn’t mean anything scary.
On 11/21/08 at 5:18 pm
Meghan said:
“They -want- something to be big and dramatic so they can be the bigger person and forgive you for it, then hang onto it later on to whip out while you’re feeling like crap over something else on which you have royally screwed up.”
Sounds like you might need to find a better class of friends, yourself. Yeesh.
Unfortunately some people enjoy self-deprication and whip it out themselves to validate the idea they have changed. It can be a coping strategy to move on from a past they haven’t necessarily forgiven themselves for…some, not ‘every’.
On 11/21/08 at 6:09 pm
jello cup said:
You’re fun. Can I have your number? I think we’d be lifelong friends.
On 11/22/08 at 12:35 am
Meghan said:
I’m a laugh riot…as long as you agree I am funny. If not…be gone!
On 11/22/08 at 12:40 am
jello cup said:
No you be gone!
C’mon, let’s go share a bong and a blintz.
On 11/22/08 at 12:57 am
Meghan said:
Ya killin’ me, Jello! What’s a blintz…like a cherry blintz? Or do I have to go look up some wild sex act on Urban Dictionary?
On 11/22/08 at 1:02 am
jello cup said:
Okay, forget the blintz. Just the bong.
On 11/22/08 at 1:12 am
The Striped Avenger said:
Stop it before one of you goes insane in the membrane!
On 11/22/08 at 1:14 am
Meghan said:
I hope you have the same excitement for our current post!