Who’s Line Is It?

Its 1:15 a.m., the music is pounding, the darkness will soon be illuminated and people are frantically attempting their last ditch efforts to hook-up for the night. So, why I ask do men feel the need to waste precious time and energy with pick-up lines? Is it such an age old tactic that it has yet to be replaced with brutally honesty? More importantly, why are women naive enough to fall for his drunken compliments and promises of a future together? Truths be told, how many of us are really looking for our soul mate in a night club? C’mon we’re there to drink, dance, enjoy the eye candy and most often with the ultimate goal of not going home alone.

I am so disenchanted with all of this hoopla that I’ve actually found myself being abrupt and somewhat crass when it comes to listening to the blah, blah, blah’s that come my way. Enough life experiences have brought me to the point where I would have so much more respect for a man who could actually walk up to me in a club and simply say “hey, wanna get out of here?” At the very least, he’s being honest and isn’t that what we all want? No assumptions, no grand gestures, just the truth. Instead, I find myself saying “keep your card, because honestly, I’m never going to call you.”

Is all of this breath being wasted because men feel they need to shower women with compliments in order to get her naked for the night? Are these lines for his benefit or hers? She suddenly has lofty goals of being “the chosen one” and he gets laid. The fall out however is that she believed his lines; she convinces herself that his words meant more than just another one night stand. He on the other hand, said a good-bye the next morning and more than likely will never give her a second thought. Sure, she found herself engaging in a late night sexcapade with the nameless stranger of the night, but would she have indulged had he been brutally honest?

This is such a dichotomy for some; one minute we say we want a relationship, yet the next we are willing to sacrifice our wants and needs in hopes that he really meant what he said in his early morning drunken stupor. Ladies if you want to have your cake and to eat it too, be honest with yourself. Don’t complain that he never called you when you were foolish enough to believe his pick-up lines. If you simply want a late night romp, so be it that is your prerogative. But, don’t convince yourself that you will be different or that it’s ok to have sex with a stranger and it will somehow miraculously become all you’ve been dreaming of. Gentlemen, do us a favor, and stop preying on the weak, it only perpetuates their insecurities. There are plenty of women who are willing to do the deed for the sake of doing it. Some of us want nothing more than a nameless partner for the night. Learn to read women. It doesn’t take a genius to find a “sure thing” without taking unnecessary prisoners of lust captured with empty lines.